I love my sister. We fought a lot and often didn't get along (cause she just HAD to watch Teen@ge Mutant Ninj@ Turtles which was on during the Fre$h Prince of Bel @ire) but I remember countless hours spent giggling and playing together. She is still one of the first people I call when I am really, truly sad. She knows more about me than almost anyone on the planet.
I was so excited for Meron to have a sister. When Hani came home and we realized how close in age they were I imagined something similar for them. I knew they would fight and disagree sometimes, but that they would be best friends in the end.
That really didn't happen. Meron wanted to be best friends with Hani. She loves her sister. Hani, as I've said many times before, was bitter about the competition for our affection that Meron represented to her. Meron was rejected time and time again. I watched her be hurt when she would hug Hani and Hana would stiffen up, hand remaining at her sides unless prompted to return the hug. It was hard. I understood Hani's reluctance and anger. I understood her fear that we would love Mer best because she had been there the longest. I understood Hana resenting having to compete.... but it was really hard. Mer took a step back from Hana after a while and, while they played together very well, Mer transferred a lot of her affection to Kai. She mothers him and plays with him in equal measures. She began hugging him more and he reciprocated. I kind of thought it would always be a little like that... Meron and Kai would be close, and Hani would be kind of an outsider. It broke my heart for all three of them for different reasons.
Lately though, I have noticed a certain... thawing out from Hana. It began a while ago with her seeking Meron out to play much more than she sought out Kai. A few weeks ago I noticed the girls watching tv with their arms around each others' shoulders. It made me tear up. I was so glad to see it. Last week, Hana was trying to find something to wear and she called Meron upstairs to help her pick something out. What is more sisterly than that? And today, the icing on the cake. When the girls came downstairs this morning, Meron was wearing Hana's pants and Hana was wearing Meron's shirt. Do you have any idea how big of a deal this simple, sisterish act was? Such a big deal for Hana to let Meron wear a favorite pair of pants. Such a big deal to give and to receive willingly. I love watching this relationship slowly develop, and so glad that Meron and Hana are finally on their way to having what I desperately want for them both. There is nothing more precious in this world than a good sister.
Now, we just need to find a brother for Kai.
How beautiful! My sister and I were not close at all growing up. We bickered and I'm several years older. We really had no overlap of interests, activities or friends as kids. But as adults, I would be lost without her. It was only in our 20s that we really became friends, but now we are very close and are each other's best confidants and support.
ReplyDeleteI would just like to add a "BUM-BUM-BAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!" if only for my own amusement...
ReplyDeleteI think Sam is available for brother duty. So really the issue is "when are you moving out here?"
ReplyDeleteWonderful! Gives me hope!
ReplyDeleteSuch a big deal the sibling thing. PJ having a sibling was a very important thing to SAG (an only child). The fighting, teasing and nastiness between them is killing me. Just one more thing we can't control as mothers.
ReplyDeleteIt was Mighty Morphin' Power Rangers, Kate.
ReplyDeleteOMG, I love it! Kate still condemning the poor ninja turtles and Liz still defending the power rangers!!! Only if you've had a sister can you relate to this completely. Figuring out that your sister is probably your very best friend is such a gift, I'm so glad you have each other. :-)
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